There are so many details to think about while planning your wedding.  Mothers should be one of them.  At first glance you might say oh that is not too hard, ask her who she would like to invite and fill her in on the details.  For some mothers that would be alright but if you have mothers who have been an important part of your life and that have been involved in your life chances are they might have different ideas.  Let’s talk about mothers, of course there is your biological mother, and perhaps you have some or all of the following:  step-mother (evil or nice), grand-mother, god-mother, future mother-in-law, surrogate mother etc.  I have seen every kind of mother at a wedding and have seen them be completely detached and not have anything to do with the wedding or completely plan it as one mother of the groom did.

by Melanie Nashan

The first thing I would suggest is to ask your mother if there is something really important about your wedding that she wants to be a part of or add to.  When I say mother, I mean both the mother of the bride and of the groom.  (After all I have a son who may marry one day and I want to be able to do some things for the wedding!)  Anyway, once the two of you discuss their thoughts and wishes you can decide if you want to let them happen either in their planned way or some alternate way that makes everyone happy.  The next step I would suggest is to really see what their strengths are.  One bride’s mother was able to arrange flowers beautifully, and that is what she did.  Perhaps you have a grandmother that loves to sew, pick out some wonderful fabric and have her make runners for the tables. I have seen a lot of mothers who do the preliminary shopping for vendors for their kids that are too busy.  You give them a set of guidelines that list what you are looking for in the different vendors.  They do the web searching, on Montana Wedding Guide, and narrow your choices for you say to three in every category and voila your job is manageable.

Your wedding will take a lot of time to plan and there are endless details for your to tend to.  Share them with the people who love you and that you love.  You will make them so happy to be a part of your wedding day and it will make your job a lot easier.

By Keegan Nashan

Some other ideas I have see over the years:

• borrow some of their jewelry.

•  one god-mother made the brides wedding dress

•  one mother made the bridesmaids dresses

•  one mother performed the ceremony

•  my mother baked a bunch of my favorite cookies, and made bonbomiera’s, Greek wedding favors, and brought them from Florida to California.

•  another mother made the wedding cakes

•  on the day of your wedding make sure nobody has too many responsibilities.  My advice to everyone is hire a day of planner if you have not used one during the process.  After all of your planning, and work, you want to enjoy every moment of your wedding.  You don’t want to worry if the caterer arrived on time, if they have enough settings, if the cake is here, if the band is setting up.  The list goes on and is overwhelming, trust me on this, hire a day of planner.  You will appreciate their services.

•  have all of your mothers sit in the front row and give them a beautiful flower to wear

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